4 Tips for a Healthy, Happy Marriage


Just the like the old saying goes, “marriage doesn’t stop at the wedding.” It is only another chapter in your relationship. Congratulations to your wonderful wedding, with all the great catering, amazing venue and attentive guests. However, what you had in that day is very different from that one you will for your whole life.

Marriage can be overwhelming for others. To make this chapter in your life successful, healthy and happy, you might ask, “What should I do?”

Make your relationship a priority.

The mental change of going into marriage can be startling for some people. Being married means you are responsible for another person in a new and deep way. There are husbands or wives that don’t prioritize their relationship once they get married. They are still somehow rooted with their family, placing parents or siblings first instead of their spouse. Or they have been used to be on their own for quite some time and don’t realize that their work, interest, and friends are no longer a priority. As a married individual, you must be able to realize that your spouse is your priority. It’s important to establish it so it will be much easier to go through your married life in the later years where problems may occur.

Create your own rituals.

Creating your own rituals could mean simple things like making breakfast for your wife on the weekends and let her relax. Whatever it may be, having a “couple ritual” will help you in connecting with your partner in the midst of a hectic life. The rituals will help to establish trust, love and safety in your relationship, which will help you and your spouse to trudge unto the outside world. If your spouse says that they love you and shows that through constant gestures, then believe that it’s true.

Check in daily.

According to marriage experts, couples must copy what big companies has been doing for years to make sure workers are productive and happy: holding regular meetings. For couples, it can be as simple as appreciating each other, giving simple information about how your day went, asking your spouse if something is troubling them or making nonjudgmental and complaint-free request.

Ask: Is it good for our relationship?

When you’re faced with a vital decision in your marriage, make it a habit not only to talk about it if it’s for you or your spouse. Talk about it and ask if it’s good for your marriage. This might involve an amount of time you and your spouse will be apart from each other, if it will make things difficult for you and your spouse or if it has something that might threaten your relationship.

If you need, contact one of the many therapists in Victoria BC for marriage counselling advice.